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I understand the gravity. I totally understand it. As the Chinese proverb goes: "a pig approaches its doom as it gets plump, and a man approaches his doom as he is celebrated." In our digital age, a seemingly innocent interview or an article you wrote for the media might go viral and quickly put you at the focus of public attention, and I mean in a bad way. No matter how well-thought or well-intended, you might attract:

1. opportunistic thieves
2. businesspeople playing nasty, because what you said hurt their business
3. extremists, who want to give you some "fraternal assistance" like what Cain gave to Abel, because they think you represent a movement or ideology that they want to destroy
4. and psychotic killers who are looking to be famous.

I am sure we can all stay reasonably safe if we have about two million dollars to blow annually, which is how much Angelina Jolie pays for her private security service. However, for many people here, staying safe while being known to the public is not a daunting task and many have succeeded with ease. Do you have any advice to share here? Of course, I am not asking for a multiple-line report, and any advice on where to start and how to best leverage on the private security service is what I can truly appreciate.

At last, here is a BBC article for those not yet familiar with the topic, "What celebrities do to stay safe" (http://news.bbc.co.u...ews/3909813.stm), and you have my blessing that the creator keeps you and loved ones safe in his hands, ever and forever.
 

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Don't act a fool.
 

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I put my faith in Jesus. It seems to be keeping my family safe for several generations. No worries here, might want to give it a try. I understand that it may not be your thing, but from the way you are speaking you are seeking guidance.
 

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I've learned to be very careful of what people know about you. As I started aquiring wealth and buying toys, it enraged people and I had no clue until it blew up in my face. Friends I had hung with for 20 years became envious and hateful. Generous gestures from me looked like bragging and flaunting to them. I drove a Lambo, picked up dinner tabs, paid for concerts, etc because I was having fun with my friends ( so I thought) but it wasn't interpreted that way after some time. People talk and strangers would say they heard this and that about me and it freaked me out. It was outlandish claims like I lived in a castle, was a drug dealer, had this car or that, none of it was true.

Now, I fly under the radar whenever I can. I give very little personal info out. I am married and have kids so I just try to build wealth quietly. I tell others I won my car so I'm just "lucky". I tell my neighbors I'm retired ( in my 40s) so they don't ask questions. I'm just like everyone else as far as they are concerned, no better, because as soon as they KNOW you are better, they will hate you. Sad but true. Stay safe.

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I've learned to be very careful of what people know about you. As I started aquiring wealth and buying toys, it enraged people and I had no clue until it blew up in my face. Friends I had hung with for 20 years became envious and hateful. Generous gestures from me looked like bragging and flaunting to them. I drove a Lambo, picked up dinner tabs, paid for concerts, etc because I was having fun with my friends ( so I thought) but it wasn't interpreted that way after some time. People talk and strangers would say they heard this and that about me and it freaked me out. It was outlandish claims like I lived in a castle, was a drug dealer, had this car or that, none of it was true.

Now, I fly under the radar whenever I can. I give very little personal info out. I am married and have kids so I just try to build wealth quietly. I tell others I won my car so I'm just "lucky". I tell my neighbors I'm retired ( in my 40s) so they don't ask questions. I'm just like everyone else as far as they are concerned, no better, because as soon as they KNOW you are better, they will hate you. Sad but true. Stay safe.

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So so true mate ... And sad when you think about it , the very ones you want to take along for the ride with you and share your good fortune with will be the first to stick the knife into you !!!
 

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I've learned to be very careful of what people know about you. As I started aquiring wealth and buying toys, it enraged people and I had no clue until it blew up in my face. Friends I had hung with for 20 years became envious and hateful. Generous gestures from me looked like bragging and flaunting to them. I drove a Lambo, picked up dinner tabs, paid for concerts, etc because I was having fun with my friends ( so I thought) but it wasn't interpreted that way after some time. People talk and strangers would say they heard this and that about me and it freaked me out. It was outlandish claims like I lived in a castle, was a drug dealer, had this car or that, none of it was true.

Now, I fly under the radar whenever I can. I give very little personal info out. I am married and have kids so I just try to build wealth quietly. I tell others I won my car so I'm just "lucky". I tell my neighbors I'm retired ( in my 40s) so they don't ask questions. I'm just like everyone else as far as they are concerned, no better, because as soon as they KNOW you are better, they will hate you. Sad but true. Stay safe.

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Completely agree, I keep to myself, have a handful of friends and that is about the extent of it.
 

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I've learned to be very careful of what people know about you. As I started aquiring wealth and buying toys, it enraged people and I had no clue until it blew up in my face. Friends I had hung with for 20 years became envious and hateful. Generous gestures from me looked like bragging and flaunting to them. I drove a Lambo, picked up dinner tabs, paid for concerts, etc because I was having fun with my friends ( so I thought) but it wasn't interpreted that way after some time. People talk and strangers would say they heard this and that about me and it freaked me out. It was outlandish claims like I lived in a castle, was a drug dealer, had this car or that, none of it was true.

Now, I fly under the radar whenever I can. I give very little personal info out. I am married and have kids so I just try to build wealth quietly. I tell others I won my car so I'm just "lucky". I tell my neighbors I'm retired ( in my 40s) so they don't ask questions. I'm just like everyone else as far as they are concerned, no better, because as soon as they KNOW you are better, they will hate you. Sad but true. Stay safe.

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+1 I have had similar experiences. Great advice
 

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So so true mate ... And sad when you think about it , the very ones you want to take along for the ride with you and share your good fortune with will be the first to stick the knife into you !!!
Happens all the time. Sad. Yes. So I guess, keep eyes wide open and investigate them when there is negative gut feeling.
 

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if youre doing it right (staying under the radar) you dont have to investigate. You dont have to invest any time into anything but yourself. People will always be different. The world needs ditch diggers and Im just not one of them. I prefer to work hard and not be that lazy guy on the couch complaining about life. One of my favorite quotes by Carroll Bryant-
"Some people make things happen. Some people watch things happen. And then there are those who wonder, 'What the hell just happened?"

Which one are you and which one do you want to be???
 

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if youre doing it right (staying under the radar) you dont have to investigate. You dont have to invest any time into anything but yourself. People will always be different. The world needs ditch diggers and Im just not one of them. I prefer to work hard and not be that lazy guy on the couch complaining about life. One of my favorite quotes by Carroll Bryant-
"Some people make things happen. Some people watch things happen. And then there are those who wonder, 'What the hell just happened?"

Which one are you and which one do you want to be???
Yep that saying 'rings true' ... I believe greatly in making your own fortune , and the only way to do that is hard graft !!!
 

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if youre doing it right (staying under the radar) you dont have to investigate. You dont have to invest any time into anything but yourself. People will always be different. The world needs ditch diggers and Im just not one of them. I prefer to work hard and not be that lazy guy on the couch complaining about life. One of my favorite quotes by Carroll Bryant-
"Some people make things happen. Some people watch things happen. And then there are those who wonder, 'What the hell just happened?"

Which one are you and which one do you want to be???
Very true.
 

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I've learned to be very careful of what people know about you. As I started aquiring wealth and buying toys, it enraged people and I had no clue until it blew up in my face. Friends I had hung with for 20 years became envious and hateful. Generous gestures from me looked like bragging and flaunting to them. I drove a Lambo, picked up dinner tabs, paid for concerts, etc because I was having fun with my friends ( so I thought) but it wasn't interpreted that way after some time. People talk and strangers would say they heard this and that about me and it freaked me out. It was outlandish claims like I lived in a castle, was a drug dealer, had this car or that, none of it was true.

Now, I fly under the radar whenever I can. I give very little personal info out. I am married and have kids so I just try to build wealth quietly. I tell others I won my car so I'm just "lucky". I tell my neighbors I'm retired ( in my 40s) so they don't ask questions. I'm just like everyone else as far as they are concerned, no better, because as soon as they KNOW you are better, they will hate you. Sad but true. Stay safe.

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Wise words. I"ve been fortunate to have been raised in a large humble family, in a neighborhood with many similarly large families from a variety of cultures, to have been formally educated in human behaviour, and professionally trained in strategic sales and in enforcement. Some days in one career I was required to assess as many as 1000 people a day at one of the busiest ports in the country. What I have learned is that most people are good, some are not very nice, and a few are very bad.

Now, when there is a wealth class stratification between family/friends most of the good people will be glad for those who have been fortunate, the not very nice will be jealous, and the very bad will wish harm.

One does have to be protective of one's family and happiness, and keep up barriers between oneself and those nay sayers, however it is often worth the work to keep an open and objective mind to find there are many nice and supportive people out there.

I know from professional experience where many of my colleagues while carrying out their duties came across many very bad people and because of that treated most people as bad. Their reaction protected them from potential harm, physical and perhaps emotional, yet resulted in them unfairly treating most good people they interacted with as bad. This profiling of others is a common response, as it groups others into basic categories in ones mind so differentiating the good from the bad becomes unnecessary and easier for one to manage. One could say it is a coping mechanism.

In any case my point here is to suggest you remain protective as you need, but consider putting a little time and effort in to find the good people out there. It is work and some risk, but likely worthwhile. The smart ones protect very well and also find a wide range of friends and family they enjoy sharing life with.

Like sharing my GTR with family and friends, letting them take it out for a day now and then, stopping to let kids and parents and others take pictures, sit in the car, even a few to drive it, sharing good fortune opens the door to risk, but done well is the best thing ever. Remember the most selfish thing one can do is give.
 
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